At one time or another, almost all parents question their self-confidence. Parents wants to be able to act decisively and confidently, but the influence of neighbours and relatives and what they will think can be upsetting.
Here’s an idea that may help. Most decisions revolve around two categories—needs and wants—
and it is important to determine which is which. Needs must be responded to inthe interests of children’s development. Wants may be considered but theymay also be rejected in the interest
of health, safety, or family priorities. So, while children need good food, they may want only ice cream. Parents who feel obliged to satisfy all their child’s wants may discover they are harbouring a little tyrant. Many parents are afraid of losing their child’s love if they deny them all they want—children do often become frustrated and sometimes angry when thwarted.
Yet is impossible to satisfy 100 percent without parents becoming irritated and indignant. A compromise is, first, to recognise the difference between needs and wants. Then, if you feel secure in your love for your child, you can accept the consequences of your decision—without fearing your child’srejection or criticisms from relatives or neighbours.
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