Anam Cara – providing support for bereaved parents

Anam Cara is acutely aware that throughout the island of Ireland every day there are bereaved mothers and fathers left bereft and devastated by the death of their child in circumstances that include accidents in the home or workplace, road traffic collisions, life threatening illnesses, or by suicide. The death of a child, of any age, is devastating and isolating experience for every family member

Sharon Vard, CEO of Anam Cara describes the death of your child is an “unimaginable nightmare” but said that, with support, parents can “learn to cope with the overwhelming sense of loss”.

Sadly, the much needed comfort and support of extended family, friends, neighbors and colleagues is constrained due to the current Covid 19 Virus outbreak.  The restrictions in place around funerals and social distancing is impacting bereaved parents, causing them to feel further isolated with their grief and loss, not knowing where to turn. How do you start to choose the 10 people to attend your child’s funeral?

Paula Townley (P. Townley Funeral directors, Drogheda) commented.”In our 30+ years’ experience, the death of every child or young person is uniquely devastating and impacts their family, friends and community. We want families to know that their funeral director understands and will support them through these difficult times”

 Anam Cara has swiftly responded to these new restrictions by developing and producing 8 online Bereavement Support video vignettes to help bereaved mother and fathers at this very difficult time.  These clips will complement the Anam Cara videos and information Pack already available on anamcara.ie  which were compiled by bereaved parents for bereaved parents.

Vard continues with “Anam Cara trust these online short videos will offer a little ray of hope and be a powerful resource in these challenging times along with our other online resources. We want parents to know that Anam Cara is here now, today and into the future supporting families after the devastating loss of a child

Available Anam Cara Resources include:

Anam Cara support services continue to be delivered. For parents who do not have access to the internet, the Anam Cara central office will be manned, as usual, from Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm and offer telephone support on 085 2888 888 or 01 4045378.  On request Anam Cara will post the Anam Cara Information Packs and other information leaflets.

By clicking on the links below will bring parents to other online resources Anam Cara provides. They are:

The Anam Cara website contains relevant information for bereaved parents including links to Anam Cara’s information pack.  This pack contains the leaflets; A Fathers grief, A Mothers Grief, Coping with the Sudden death of my Child, Milestones and Challenges, Self-Care, Supporting my Family, Living with no Surviving Children.

Bereaved parents can also access the Anam Cara Support Videos . These, we hope, will help parents feel less isolated in these challenging times

Anam Cara’s Facebook Page will be updated regularly and it is a good place for bereaved parents to keep in touch.

About Anam Cara – www.anamcara.ie  Anam Cara was founded in 2008, by bereaved parents to address the lack of bereavement support services available for families in Ireland, who have experienced the death of a child.  In particular, the families whose son or daughter died suddenly outside a hospital or hospice system who often find themselves beyond the realms of any bereavement services, struggling to cope with the intense grief and huge loss in their lives. In 2019 Anam Cara supported 2219 parents across 137 events, including events for parents who had experienced the death of their only child or children. All Anam Cara services are provided free of charge.

Anam Cara Bereavement Support evening in Donegal Town

Bereavement Information Evening

   Venue:         The Abbey Hotel, Donegal Town, Co. Donegal

  Date:            Tuesday, March 20th 2018

  Time:            7.00pm – 9.00pm (Registration from 6:45pm)

 Anam Cara, the all-Ireland organisation providing support services to bereaved parents and families, is hosting a Bereavement Information Evening in Donegal Town. This event gives parents an opportunity to hear an experienced bereavement professional talk about the many challenges their family may face after the death of a son or daughter.

Please note this event is open to all bereaved parents, regardless of the age of their child or the circumstances of their death.

If you have attended a previous Bereavement Information Evening, we would encourage you to come again because each time you will hear something that will help you along the difficult and challenging journey of grief. There will also be time after the talk to interact with other bereaved parents.

Details for the upcoming Bereavement Talk on Tuesday 20th March:

Guest Speaker:  Peter McCartan

 Peter is a Professional qualified Senior Medical Social Worker and Registered Systemic Family Therapist.

This talk will cover:

  • The complex issues grieving parents must face when they have experienced the death of their child, highlighting what is normal in this process.
  • The gender differences in facing such a loss will be explored to give an understanding for both parents of their differing worldviews.
  • It will highlight the milestones on the journey through this unique grief and the small supports that can make the journey a little easier.
  • Various types of loss, whether expected or sudden, will also be discussed to understand their impact on grieving parents, their families and the deceased child’s siblings.

Anam Cara provides a range of support services for bereaved parents which include a comprehensive website with links to resources including videos and information booklets compiled by bereaved parents. See  https://anamcara.ie/  or contact us at info@anamcara.ie or our information line on 085 2888 888.

Along with bereavement information evenings, Anam Cara runs monthly parent evenings which give parents an opportunity to meet with other parents in a safe and comfortable place over a cup of tea or coffee. Throughout the year Anam Cara also hosts a variety of social and remembrance helping to bring families together.

Recognising that some parents may prefer not to talk openly about their loss. Anam Cara would like to reassure parents there is no pressure for them to contribute and they are welcome to listen to how other Mums and Dads have coped through the intense grief and sense of loss.

This information evening, like all Anam Cara events, is provided free of charge to parents.

Anam Cara will need to confirm numbers for this event. We would appreciate if you could RSVP to info@anamcara.ie before Monday 19th March 2018 or contact us on 01 4045378 – 0879637790. This event is funded by Tusla.

Anam Cara Evening for Bereaved Parents

Anam Cara Donegal, the organisation that supports bereaved parents, will hold its next monthly Parent Evening on Thursday 8th of March from 19:30 to 21:00 in the Radisson Blu Hotel, Letterkenny, Co. Donegal. Anam Cara Donegal offers a safe and comfortable setting where you can ‘drop the mask’ and be yourself among people who understand. This event is free and open to all bereaved parents regardless of the age your child died, the circumstances of their death, or whether their death was recent or not.
 

The solidarity experienced by being among people who are bound together by a common feeling of appalling loss is a great help. None of us wanted to be in this group nor would wish it on others but the feeling of understanding – which doesn’t need to be verbally expressed – is a support. We all understand.”
 
For more information see anamcara.ie or ring their Information Line on 085 2888 888 & NI 02895213120.
 
Anam Cara Parental and Sibling Bereavement Support
(View our videos with parent testimonies here)
 

Anam Cara event for bereaved parents

Anam Cara, an organisation that supports bereaved parents, will hold a Bereavement Information Evening on Thursday 8th of February from 19:30 to 21:30 in the Radisson Blu Hotel, Letterkenny, Co. Donegal. A guest speaker experienced in supporting bereaved parents will talk for about forty minutes. Afterwards there’ll be an opportunity to speak/listen to other bereaved parents or to speak to the professional should you have any questions or concerns. As Anam Cara will need to confirm numbers for teas, coffees, please RSVP to info@anamcara.ie before Wednesday 7th February or call the Information Line on 085 2888 888.

 

The solidarity experienced by being among people who are bound together by a common feeling of appalling loss is a great help. None of us wanted to be in this group nor would wish it on others but the feeling of understanding – which doesn’t need to be verbally expressed – is a support. We all understand.”

You can find out more about Anam Cara here https://anamcara.ie/