How to build a happy baby

Here’s another very interesting piece from Dr Malie Coyne from NUI Galway. It was posted a while back on the RTÉ website but it remains very relevant today.

How to build a happy baby

"Positive infant mental health is synonymous with a child's ability to form secure relationships"
“Positive infant mental health is synonymous with a child’s ability to form secure relationships”
Opinion: infant mental health is an important public health issue, as research shows the quality of the early relationship builds the foundation for virtually every aspect of human development.Babies are hardwired to develop a social connection with their primary caregiver, usually their mother or father. Without this relationship, they would not survive. We learn about who we are through our relationships. It is within the sacred crucible of the most important first relationship, the parent-infant bond, that our sense of self and the world develops. “Infant mental health” refers to the child’s healthy social and emotional development in the first three years of life within the context of this “attachment” relationship with the primary caregiver.

This innate need for a meaningful relationship was described in John Bowlby’s Attachment Theory (1969), who believed that the primary caregiver acts as a prototype for future relationships via the internal working model, which is a framework for understanding the world, the self and others. Mary Ainsworth and colleagues further developed this theory in their observational studies of individual differences in attachment, including “secure” versus “insecure” attachment styles.

Put simply, a child-parent “secure” attachment refers to the availability of the caregiver to:

– Provide safety and security to the baby

– Attune to and respond to their needs

– Provide comfort when they are upset

– Share in joyful experiences

– Enable the child to feel special and begin to develop a positive sense of self.

“Research points to a critical window of opportunity that exists in the first three years of life, where the brain develops as much as 90 percent of its wiring”

Positive infant mental health is synonymous with a child’s ability to form secure relationships, to regulate their emotions, to explore their environment and to learn and develop cognitive capacities across the lifespan. Although it is a relatively new concept amongst many, it is “everyone’s business” and fast becoming an important public health issue, spurred on by a growing field of research and practice. It is the quality of the early relationship which builds the foundation for virtually every aspect of human development, including emotional, physical and intellectual.

Dr J Kevin Nugent, one of the world’s leading experts on early child development and director of the Brazelton Institute, referred to the revolution which has taken place in our scientific understanding of the capacity of babies and in the workings of their brains when addressing the Oireachtas Joint Committee on Health and Children in 2015. Research points to a critical window of opportunity that exists in the first three years of life, where the brain develops as much as 90 percent of its wiring, which is impacted significantly by the baby’s experience of everyday interactions with their caregiver.

It is this steadfast evidence for the critical importance of the early years which has sparked my passion for the area. My personal experience of primary care psychology in Ireland seldom focusing on children under three has driven my determination to change the status quo. I am not alone in this growing interest, as there are some worthy initiatives happening in Ireland, including the introduction of the internationally recognised Infant Mental Health Competency Guidelines by the Irish Association of Infant Mental Health (I-AIMH), the establishment of the Psychological Society of Ireland’s Perinatal and Infant Mental Health Special Interest Group (PIMHSIG), and the presence of localised inter-disciplinary Infant Mental Health Network Groups.

They highlight the message that nobody is looking for perfect; a baby just needs “good enough”.

A true highlight of my clinical psychology career to date has been my participation in the multi-agency Early Years Sub-Group of Galway C.Y.P.S.C (Children and Young People’s Services Committee), when we were given the task of creating a four-year plan for improving the health and well-being of new borns to three year olds in Galway city. Following an extensive consultation process carried out by H.S.E. Health Promotion and Galway City Partnership with parents, professionals and local community groups, we devised the Galway City Early Years Health and Wellbeing Plan 2016-2020, with a key target area being the promotion of infant mental health.

To this end, the Early Years Sub-Group will be joined by the H.S.E.Galway Healthy Cities and Galway Parent Network, to launch our “Building a Happy Baby” posters on March 7 in the Maternity Classroom at University College Hospital Galway.

Derived from Unicef and the World Health Organization (W.H.O.) Baby Friendly Initiative, our plan is to display posters in every facility parents attend in an effort to promote the child-parent attachment and to dispel common myths.

There are four posters in all, each containing simple evidence-based messages which feature multi-cultural babies and parents which we plan to translate into different languages. They are positively framed in emphasising humans’ innate abilities to look after their babies and highlighting the message that nobody is looking for perfect, a baby just needs “good enough”.

Here’s a breakdown of each poster. Please note that babies are referred to as “he”.

Poster 1: “New babies have a strong need to be close to their parents, as this helps them to feel secure and loved, like they matter in the world!”

Myth: Babies become spoilt and demanding if they are given too much attention.

Truth: When babies’ needs for love and comfort are met, they will be calmer and grow up to be more confident.

Evidence: Close skin-to-skin body contact, postnatally and beyond, significantly improves the physical and mental health and wellbeing for both mother and baby. When babies feel secure, they release a hormone called oxytocin, which acts like a fertiliser for their growing brain, helping them to be happier and more confident as they grow older. Holding, smiling and talking to your baby also releases oxytocin in you which also has a soothing effect.

Poster 2: “Holding a baby when they cry helps them to grow into a confident and trusting toddler.”

Myth: You should leave babies alone so that they learn to be independent.

Truth: Babies left alone think they have been abandoned so become more clingy and insecure when you are around.

Evidence: Early separation from those we depend can be very frightening for a baby and raise cortisol levels in the baby’s brain, which shapes their developing nervous system and determines how stress is interpreted and responded to in the future. Babies who are held and soothed when in distress grow into more confident toddlers who are better able to deal with being away from their parents temporarily, rather than becoming clingy.

Poster 3: “Holding, smiling and talking to your baby releases a loving hormone in you and your baby. This makes you both feel calm and happier.”

Myth: Babies need lots of toys to keep them busy and help them learn.

Truth: Looking at your face is the best way for babies to learn. Talking, listening and smiling helps your baby’s brain to grow.

Evidence: Despite pressure to buy the latest gadget, what matters most to your baby and their sense of security is having quality time with YOU. In this “serve and return” interaction, babies naturally reach out for interaction through babbling, facial expression and gestures and adults respond with similar vocalizing and gesturing. This process is fundamental to the wiring of their brains and marks the beginning of your baby feeling understood, building a firm foundation for self-esteem.

Poster 4. “Keep your baby close to you so that you can learn how to meet their needs and read their signals for hunger or comfort”.

Myth: It is important to get babies into a routine as that makes your life easier.

Truth: New babies are not capable of learning a routine. Responding to their needs makes them feel secure and cry less.

Evidence: Keep your baby close so that you can start to recognise the signals he makes to tell you he is hungry, tired or wants a cuddle. Responding to these signals will not only support brain development but make your baby feel safe and secure. A mother rocking her crying baby saying gently “you poor little thing have a hunger pain in your tummy and I’m just going to feed you now” is helping the baby to manage their emotions now and in the future.


The views expressed here are those of the author and do not represent or reflect the views of RTÉ

How music helps with children’s literacy skills

The Importance of Literacy for Children

Literacy is one of the most important skills we develop in our early childhood years. It’s not just about being able to read in school, either. Learning how to read gives children the skills they need to learn and comprehend complex ideas that help shape them into individuals. Being able to read and write gives them a means of self-expression, which is essential for self-esteem. It also expands their world as they learn about different people, places, and perspectives without ever having to leave where they are.

Developing literacy isn’t a one-way avenue—it takes a multi-faceted approach. Parents need to read to children and use unfamiliar words with them in order to help develop their vocabulary. Teachers need to provide a wide array of lessons, including phonics, handwriting, vocabulary, grammar, and creative reading/writing. Telling stories, listening to the radio, and learning how to navigate the library and conduct research also develop higher-level skills as children age.

Literacy and Music

One literacy tool parents may not consider is the power of music. Music can be used in many ways to develop a child’s reading abilities. It starts with the alphabet. How do you remember learning your letters? Was it through a song? That’s not a coincidence. Our brains have an uncanny ability to remember rhythm, melodies, and rhymes. Teaching children the alphabet through the phenomenon of song helps them learn these building blocks of language much quicker and with less difficulty.

Music can help children improve their literacy skills way beyond the alphabet song. According to a 2014 study published in The Journal of Neuroscience, children who took music lessons for two years became better at processing language, in addition to improving their musical skills. Researchers think that the shared elements between language and music—pitch, timing, and timbre—activate the same parts of the brain, so when you exercise one, it helps improve the other. Furthermore, playing music with others improves higher-level skills including collaboration, creativity, and critical thinking. Therefore, adding music lessons to your child’s curriculum can improve literacy as well as other academic skills crucial for 21st century success.

Adding Music to Your Child’s Life

If your child’s school offers choir or music groups at lunchtime or after school, encouraging them to sign up is one of the easiest ways to get them involved in music. However, it’s important to find other ways to engage your child in musical activity so they enjoy it, rather than solely view it as an academic obligation. Provide your child with their own area in the home where they can practice their instrument and escape when they’re feeling overwhelmed by other responsibilities.

Other ways to add music to your child’s education include:

  • Sing together!
  • Incorporate music into day-to-day chores and activities.
  • Play classical music when it’s time to read or study.
  • Attend concerts and musicals as a family.
  • Put on some high-tempo music when playing sports or exercising.
  • Keep instruments around the house.
  • Sign them up for private music lessons.

Literacy isn’t just about earning A’s in English class. Learning how to read, write, and interpret language gives children the skills to explore and grow in this world. Adding music into your child’s education works similar parts of the brain that are used when reading or writing. By including music in your child’s learning, you improve their abilities to accept, process, and retain information through the power of language.

(Thanks to Charles Carpenter for this piece)

Attachment and Bonding

What does secure attachment look like in babies?

 Around the age of eight months, a securely attached infant starts to get upset when their attachment figure (mum, dad or whoever is the primary carer) is out of sight. This response is called separation anxiety.  Separation anxiety at this time in life is normal. Also important is what the infant does when the attachment figure returns.  A securely attached infant is happy and can accept comforting from the attachment figure.  In other words, the securely attached infant has a strong enough bond that they feel upset when the attachment figure leaves, but also has enough trust in their attachment figure that they can relax and be comforted when the attachment figure returns.   Securely attached children can be comforted to some extent by other people, but they generally prefer the comfort of their primary attachment figure.

Trust = Emotional Regulation

 The process of getting upset and then being comforted by contact with the primary attachment figure is how infants learn to calm themselves and regulate (manage) their own emotions.  Emotional regulation is the term for this ability.  It allows us to understand and accept our own emotions, use healthy ways to handle them, and keep functioning even under stress.  Most aspects of good mental and emotional health later in life depend on this ability of emotional regulation.

 

What does secure attachment look like in toddlers?

As your child enters the second year of life she becomes more physically and emotionally independent.  Parts of the brain involved in speech come on-line during the second year and most children have begun to talk and deal with toilet training by the end of the third year.  This is a busy and challenging time for children and their parents.

Exploring (getting into everything!) and testing your patience by saying “no” are some of the ways a toddler tries out his new skills and develops an independent sense of self.  Toddlers have a strong desire to do things “by myself!”  At the same time, they still need to feel close to their attachment figure.  This creates internal stress and can lead to strong emotional outbursts.  This may be why people sometimes call this stage the ‘terrible twos’.

A securely attached toddler will generally be able to explore their environment with excitement and curiosity, but will also want frequent contact with their attachment figure.  The attachment bond that created trust in the first year now becomes the secure base a toddler can rely on while exploring the outside world and their inside feelings and wishes.

Think about how children this age play on their own, want to feed themselves, and so on, but still bring every toy to you to look at and want you to hold them when they are tired, hurt, or upset.  They also want you to share their joy and excitement about the world around them!

©Lifestart Foundation 2018

 

Dummies and speech

Speech, Language and Communication  – Dummies and Speech

 Some parents choose to give their child a dummy, some choose not to. However, if you give your child a dummy, it is very easy for this to become a habit, even by the time the child has reached 12 months old.

Advantages

  • A dummy can be used to comfort a baby that is hard to settle (please note that if the baby is breastfed, this should only be done when breastfeeding is established).

Disadvantages

  • Dummy sucking may cause dental problems, mouth infections and ear infections.
  • Dummies make it difficult for your child to talk.

Remember:

  • Do not let the dummy stay in your child’s mouth for long periods of time.
  • Do not secure the dummy in your child’s mouth – this could lead to choking.
  • Never clip the dummy onto your child’s clothes.
  • Do not dip the dummy in sweet, sugary foods or drinks – this may lead to tooth decay.
  • Never let your child talk with a dummy in his mouth.
  • Overuse of a dummy can have an effect on your child’s speech sound production and may lead to speech problems.
  • Use a dummy only for sleep times.

Useful tips for stopping dummy use

  • Prepare the child for stopping the dummy – talk about getting rid of it.
  • Choose a good time to give up the dummy, e.g. over a weekend and when you and your partner are not at work. Be prepared for sleepless nights.
  • Never give the dummy back to the child once you have said it has gone.
  • Your child could give their dummy away in return for a small present.

If you have any concerns, please contact your health visitor or a speech and language therapist.

©Lifestart Foundation 2018

 

 

Speech, language and communication developmental checklist

When it comes to speech, language and communication what should we expect at different stages of our children’s development?

 6 Months – Children will:

  • Respond to different tones of voice and emotion
  • Babble a variety of sounds – ‘a-goo’ ‘oooh’
  • Mouths toys, shakes objects, plays with hands and feet.
  • Localises sounds with eyes at ear level.

12 Months – Children will:

  • Respond to own name, ‘no’ and ‘bye bye’
  • Understand simple instructions
  • Babbles loudly – first words emerge
  • Understanding of object permanence.

18 months – Children will:

  • Select familiar objects and point to basis body parts on request.
  • Obeys simple instructions.
  • Obeys simple instructions
  • Use between 6 – 20 recognisable words
  • Demands objects through pointing and vocalisation.
  • Imitates everyday activities.
  • Plays contently on their own but likes to be in close proximity to a familiar adult.

2 years – Children will:

  • Follows instructions with 2 key tasks
  • Uses 2 word phases
  • Uses 50 recognisable words and understands many more
  • Constantly asking names of objects and people
  • Parallel play
  • Make believe play

3 Years – Children will:

  • Understand much of a complex sentence but not all
  • Uses 500+ words
  • Begins to understand plurals and the use of personal pronouns (you do it).
  • Using 4-6 words sentences
  • Overgeneralisation of grammatical rules (mouses, sheeps)
  • Asks many questions wih ‘what’, ‘where’ and ‘why’?
  • Joins in active make – believe play with other children

4-5 years – Children will:

  • Have expressive language of over 2,000 words
  • Have receptive language of approximately 5,000 words
  • Begin to understand prepositions – i.e. in front of, behind.
  • Understands more difficult concepts i.e. same/different.
  • Can understand two adjective modifers (e.g. “I saw a big white cat”)
  • Begin to use words to symbolise thoughts and feelings.

©Lifestart Foundation 2018

 

 

5 Entertaining and Educational Rainy-Day Activities for Kids

What do you do when bad weather has your family cooped up indoors? Don’t worry, there are plenty of ways to keep your kids entertained and educate them at the same time! The internet is full of handy resources, from children’s exercise videos to online music lessons, that can provide endless ideas for indoor fun. Here are some great activities to keep kids (and yourself!) entertained when the stormy weather strikes.

Get Dancing

Kids love to dance. So, what’s better than encouraging them to get some physical activity by dancing to music videos in the living room? Play their favorite songs and let them go wild, or hop on YouTube and pull up some videos that teach children popular dance moves. You can even find plenty of children’s exercise videos online that your kids can follow along with. Alternatively, children’s yoga videos are a great way to calm them down.

Bring Out the Little Musician in Them

Thanks to the internet, you no longer have to enroll your child in expensive music lessons when they want to learn an instrument. There are tutorials on YouTube that can teach you to play almost any song on any instrument. You can also look up fun children’s games that can teach kids the fundamentals of music theory and help them learn to read sheet music. There are even programs available to help with ear training so your kids can learn to pick out the notes in a song and sing in tune.

Encourage Their Creativity

Drawing and painting are wonderful pastimes for kids that provide more mental benefits than you may think. According to The Artful Parent, art contributes to fine motor development and helps kids enhance their problem-solving skills. It’s also a valuable way for kids to process the world around them and express their feelings. There are many videos and free online art classes that can teach kids the basics of perspective, shading, and color mixing. These can help give kids greater confidence to continue their love for art as they grow older.

Practice Maths with Real-Life Applications

Parents are always looking for ways to help supplement the education their children are receiving in school. Practicing maths at home by applying concepts to real-life situations is a great way to do this. This can help children discover the importance and usefulness of maths in their lives. For example, Imagine Learning recommends taking your kid to the grocery store and encouraging them to estimate the total cost of all your groceries before you reach the checkout.

You can also use a rainy day as an excuse to get your kids in the kitchen. While baking with your kids, teach them the maths involved in measuring, multiplying or dividing recipes to produce more or less food, converting measurements, understanding ratios, and calculating cooking times. You can also find online games that focus on the real-world applications of mathematics.

Break Out the Science Experiments

Being stuck inside is also a great opportunity to turn your kitchen into a science lab. Learning science through hands-on experiments encourages kids to be curious and to test their hypotheses about the world. For example, you can try making a glass of lava that resembles an old-school lava-lamp with just a few items you probably already have in your kitchen. This can teach your kids about the interactions between common household objects.

 

The next time it rains, be prepared with various activities to keep your kids from getting restless. Take advantage of rainy days to educate your kids while providing hours of entertainment. This is also a great way to bond with your family and have some fun yourself!

(Our thanks to Jenny Wise http://specialhomeeducator.com/ for this great article!)

Do you know that screen time can impact on your child’s development?

 How Does Screen Time Take Away from Language Development Time?

Children learn to talk and communicate through interactions with other people. That’s the way it has always been and that’s the way it will continue to be, despite any new technology that comes our way.  The first years of life are crucial for your child’s language development.  It is when their brain is the most receptive to learning new language and is building communication pathways that will be with them for the rest of their lives.

Once that window closes, it is much more difficult for someone to learn and develop language skills.  That’s why it’s harder for you to learn a foreign language as an adult and those rare children who were raised by wolves in the woods have a hard time learning to communicate efficiently.

Every minute that your child spends in front of a screen is one fewer minute that he could spend learning from your interactions with him or practising his interactions with you.  Screen time takes away from time that could (and should) be spent on person-to-person interactions.

Limiting Screen Time

Screen time refers to any time that a child spends with a screen in front of his face. That includes a television, cinema screen, smart phone, tablet, computer, hand-held video game device, DVD player in the car, or anything else with a screen and moving pictures.  It doesn’t matter if your child is watching an educational video or playing a game, screen time is screen time.

What is the harm?

Researchers are beginning to publish more and more studies about the detrimental effects of screen time on language development.

A study by Chonchaiya and Pruksananonda found that children who began watching TV before 12 months and who watched more than 2 hours of TV per day were six times more likely to have language delays!   While Duch et. al. also found that children who watched more than 2 hours of TV per day had increased odds of low communication scores.

There are more studies out there that continue to show that watching TV early often increases your child’s chances of having a speech delay.  That could mean late talking and/or problems with language in school later in life.

Increased screen time has also been linked to attention problems, short-term memory problems, and reading problems.  All of which can play into your child’s ability to learn language as well.

What if a child already has a language or speech delay?

There is no way to tell if too much screen time caused a child’s speech delay or language problems.  Most likely, it was a combination of factors, so there’s no use blaming yourself or feeling guilty.  However, continued overuse of screen time could be making your child’s language delay worse or keeping it from getting better.

How much is too much??

The American Academy of Pediatrics discourages TV and other media use by children younger than 2 years and encourages interactive play.  A child isn’t going to suddenly stop talking if he sees a few minutes of television so don’t worry if an emergency situation pops up and you allow your little one in front of a screen for a few minutes.  But don’t make a habit out of it.

After 2 years of age parents are advised not to go above 2 hours per day but try to keep it much less than that.

Parents can try cutting out screen time with their child entirely, if possible, for 30 days.  See if you notice any changes in his communication.  After that, you can reintroduce short amounts of screen time to see if there are any adverse effects.

When you do reintroduce it, you may find that your child’s attention suffers or that she talks less when allowed more screen time.  Then, you may want to consider continuing to have no screen time.  If your child seems to do ok with short amounts of screen time, it’s probably fine to let them be.  But, don’t get too carried away.  Keep screen time to a minimum.

What can I do with my child instead of screen time?

Try some of these alternatives to screen time that are way better for your child’s development and will help you build a better relationship with your child as well.  Keep in mind it’s important for you to put away your screens when you interact with your child as well.

  • Talk with your child.  If your child is only giving you one-word responses, try asking more specific questions (like “who did you eat lunch with”) instead of open-ended questions (like “how was your day?”).
  • Sing songs
  • Read a book
  • Play with your child’s favourite toy
  • Colour a picture
  • Make a craft project
  • Play outside
  • Go for a walk
  • Take your child to a park
  • Go for a car ride and talk about what you see
  • Go to the library and look for books on a topic that interests your child
  • Play a board game
  • Teach your child a new skill
  • Teach or practice a sport in the back yard
  • Ride bikes
  • Go somewhere with an indoor play-place
  • Call up some friends and have a play date
  • Cook something in the kitchen together
  • Plant seeds or plants in a garden

©Lifestart Foundation 2018

 

Babbling Babies nursery rhyme and action song book launched in Central Library, Letterkenny

A fantastic booklet developed by Lifestart Services, with the support of Donegal Library Service and HSE Health Promotion & Improvement Service, was launched in the Central Library, Letterkenny on Wednesday the 18th of April to an enthusiastic audience of adults and young children.

Studies show that if babies and children are read to early, they will enjoy reading and learning more, and do better in school. The aim of the booklet is to encourage language and reading development, and to promote the importance of reading to children.  Rhymes and songs in English, Irish, Polish, Romanian, Hindi and Kiswahili (Kenya) are included.

 Dr. Mary Roche, author of ‘Developing Children’s Critical Thinking through Picture books: a guide for primary and early years’ students and teachers’ launched the booklet. Mary is passionate about encouraging parents to read with babies and children and while launching the booklet she highlighted its benefits:

“Saying and singing rhymes along with your child is great fun and also develops essential pre-reading skills. By reading aloud and discussing books with children you are:

  • Stimulating their imaginations
  • Developing their understanding of how language works
  • Reinforcing the value of reading
  • Helping them to discover the joys of reading
  • Strengthening the relationship with your child, and-
  • Giving them a great start to their education”

Speaking at the launch, the Cathaoirleach of Donegal County Council, Cllr. Gerry McMonagle said “I would like to congratulate and thank all involved for their hard work on bringing this lovely booklet to completion. I hope it will be enjoyed by families throughout Donegal in the weeks and months to come. If you are not familiar with Donegal County Library Service yet, I encourage you to join. It is a wonderful resource, freely accessible to everyone and has much more than books to offer. Check out the library website to see what your little library card can do for you and your family”.

Babbling Babies Nursery Rhyme and Action Song Book is an initiative of the Education & Learning Sub Committee of Donegal CYPSC (Children and Young People’s Services Committee) – which includes Lifestart Services, the Library Service and HSE Health Promotion & Improvement Service. The booklet was funded by The Parenting Support Initiative (PSI), administered through a collaborative partnership between the Katharine Howard Foundation and the Community Fund for Ireland.

The booklet will be distributed to families throughout the county, through Lifestart Services, the library network and other partner organisations, for all to enjoy.