Every parent finds parenting difficult. There can be days when it feels like everything is a struggle.
Be kind to yourself. It’s important to look after yourself too. Some of these tips might be helpful for you.
Make time for yourself
You deserve some free time for relaxation or fun. Take opportunities to socialise or relax when they come.
Here are some tips that might help you make time for yourself:
- Don’t worry about maintaining the perfect home – cleaning can wait if you need a break.
- Try not to cook meals from scratch every day – batch cook in advance or use leftovers for meals.
- If you can, ask your partner or friends and family to help you free up some time.
- Don’t feel guilty for leaving your child with a childminder – you know they are being well looked after.
Try for a fresh start
If you’re having a difficult day, try to take a moment and start again. This can be easier said than done, but it can help to turn a difficult situation around.
If you’re losing patience with your child, draw a line under it, and try again. You can deal with this situation. You will feel more confident when you have had success.
Let your children make decisions
You can do too much for your child. Some will fight for their independence. Others will allow you to do everything for them.
Give your child the space to make mistakes and learn from them. This will support their independence and confidence.
Tune into your child
Every child is different. Some children are quiet and will love playing with puzzles and jigsaws. Other children have high energy and need to run around a lot.
Let your child show you what they like. Have fun together doing activities or games that suit their personality type.
How you speak about your child
Be careful about how you speak about your child in front of your child. They are always listening.
Children will live up to both high and low expectations.
It’s OK to say “I’m having a bad day. I’m sorry that I shouted at you. I love you.”
This sets a good example for your child. They will learn to say ‘sorry’ too.
Pick your battles
Don’t try to change everything. Small changes can make a big difference. Celebrate the small wins.
Children are always learning from how we cope with problems or mistakes along the way.
Get them to help you with small jobs or problems around the house. Talk them through how you solve problems.
This will teach them problem-solving skills early in life. Praise them for solving smaller problems themselves.
Make an effort to limit social media use daily. Make this a family rule.
Limit the use of social media around your children. It doesn’t allow you to bond with your child.
Don’t compare yourself to others on social media. Families that look perfect on Facebook have bad days too.
If you feel that one bad day has turned into a bad week or month, talk to your GP or public health nurse. They will guide you to services that can support you.
For more tips and advice for parents see https://www2.hse.ie/parents/parenting-advice/
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